There are times when I feel really close to God, I hear him and I feel so connected to him. There are other times I feel so far away, and I hate it when I cant hear God.
I was discussing this with a friend, and they asked me why I think this might happen. I said that I think when I put in the time for God (praying, reading his word,meditation…) I feel closer to him. This is quite logical I guess, but i didnt realise just how significant it was until my friend recomended that I read a book called ‘Celebration of Discipline’ written by Richard Foster. It is a very good book, and I recomend it to anyone look to deepen their relationship with God.
This book is teaching me the importance of putting in the time to deepen my relationship with God, to get past the superficiality and the material and to explore a deeper spiritual relationship with God.
Through reading the first few pages of this book I realised several things, the great importance of discipline, to notget caught up so much with the busyness of life and to focus my mind on what is important to God.
These are things that I have been trying to do for the past few months, specifically with my Church. I wanted to be more commited and serve God and others. So I prayed about it and asked God to reveal to me how I should do this.I started to tithe my time, by being commited to attending Church atleast once a week, attendingmy house group/bible study and I took up a duty within the Church. Through reading this bookI have realised the spiritual significance of these things.
One of the questions I often asked was why do I sometimes feel close to God and other times I dont, Richard Foster answers this by saying it is a gift that God gives to us by his grace, we cannot earn it or achieve it ourselves, we can ask God to give us this gift and through developing disciplines like meditation we can deepen our closeness with him.
Filed under: flittering words, thoughts and memories | Tags: fun, intense, joy, meaning
Ok, that might be a bit of a dramtic title, but it has some truth to it as well. I love being intense, what do I mean by that, well those who know me the most and who are similar to me will recognise this. I put great meaning into everything, analyse and constanly search for meaning in my life. The thing that means the most to me is people and relationships, as I am sure I have written a post on this before.
I also hate this part of my identity because I think sometimes i am too intense and search for meaning to much, that I might actually miss life itself and the meaning might be right in front of me and i cant see it or It might be round the next corner but I will not see it because I am too intensly searching for it. What a pain!
I think I sometimes just need to let go and as people say ‘get over it’ or make light of it. I love just having fun and laughing, this brings me so much joy and so I think I should just try sometimes to ease up and just live life.
Filed under: Discovery
I havent written in a few months, or even logged on. I think this is because I can sometimes over anaylse my life, instead of just living it!
But I have remember just how much I love to think,rationalise and analyse myself and the world. So its ok to occassionally do this. I think I have to maintain a balance though, between thinking and just doing.
I loved philosophy at University, I just loved trying to answer the big questions in life, searching for the answer was such a delight even if most of the time i didnt find it,that is the frustrating thing about philosophy.
I am such an intense person, my family and close friends have advised me to let up a bit,take some things less seriously,dont always think something has happened for some mystical reason, or that everything in life has to be analysed and I have to figure it all out. I think this is good advise, to focus on just living life sometimes. I have kinda been doing this the past few months(just didnt realise that was what i was doing untill now), but life actually just got to busy. So christmas and new year at home has been such an opportunity to escape and just chill. Its been wonderful, baths, food, wine, tv, reading, thinking, music, sleep ins… the lot. well life has to go back to normal sometime eh! and although I will maintain just living life I will also login ever now and again write something and read something, afterall analysing and being intense is my passion!
I have realised that time is such an amazing thing. Time can heal, reveal and slowly unravel things.
I can be quite an inpatient person in that I often want things done quickly. If I have a problem to solve I want to deal with it right there and then and have all the answers figured out. What I have realised is that some things take time to come to light. Thoughts, feelings and ideas they are all very complex, and we don’t always have the answers, at least not right away.
I have found that through letting go and relaxing into myself allows amazing things happen.
I am sure that I will not always be able to do this, but I have certainly learnt a lot through just being peaceful.
I am such an tense person, I hold onto a lot and although I did not realise it before I do have barriers. I thought I was someone who reveals everything to everyone. I think through hurt I have learnt to protect myself. This is a positive thing, a good thing, it has kept me safe. The only person I can fully let go to is God. He knows everything and is always there for me, who better to rely on that him.
What I really care about in life is people and relationships. I always have done, ever since I was a little girl. My dad told me that when I was little and at school I was meant to be doing a subject like maths or english, and I could not focus my mind instead I drew a picture of my family, who I love so much.
My friends, my family and others that I care about come first in my life. I put God above all this, because he made me and deserves eveything I can give him. At times in my life I have allowed certain relationships to take over in my life, in such times I have not given myself enough time and care and also neglected God. Now that I am putting relationships into more of a balance, rememering that Christ is number one and that I must consider myself as well as others, I am know who I am, what my identity is and who my identity is in. Christ my savour who made me and knows everything about me, my fears and failings and loves me all the same. And most wonderfully of all there is nothing I can do that can make him love me more or less. Wow.
The thing is that there are times when I allow relationships to effect me too much. I know that it is not good for me to focus on one person or certain relationships too much, because when I do this I lose sight of my own life and who I am. I find this very hard, especially because naturally I am inclined to give myself over to someone, to let them in and to trust them. I know that I need to be more selective who I allow in and also to take my time in letting someone back into my life. I have been going through such a growing time (and it is God who has worked in me) realising who I am and what I care about. For someone to come into that, they need to be the right person, someone who see’s me and is going to treat me right.
I think in life you have to take risks as well, if you have feelings for someone, you have to see where it is going to go… Its hard sometimes. It is also something I really like, getting to know someone and close to someone. We have certain instincts given to us and gifts to relate to people on a deeper level and I want to explore this amazing gift in life. I just hope that while I do this, I remember who I am and who I am in Christ.
Sometimes I think it would be nice to be someone who just floats through life, never worrying, not over analysing, perfectly confident…
I am not like this, not one bit. I always over think, I question everything, often think negatively, not about others but about myself (although I am learning not to), I seem to learn the most through the difficult things in life. I am not sure why this is, but CS Lewis wrote in the problems with pain, that ‘God whispers in our pleasures, but shouts in our pain’. I would just like to be more hopeful that God will bless me through nice things as well. It would just be nice not to have to fight everything, within myslef and the world. Life is often a battle, it has been for me for as long as i can remember.
I started to think, that this is not the way that God made me and I have tried to re learn who I am in God. However I have a feeling, that this is just the way I am, complicated and intense, I quite like being like this, its just hard work!!!
At the moment I am going through quite a lot of doubting. Mainly about my job situation, I have been offered a job as a LA, but I am not sure yet what the salary will be, and I have a feeling that I am not going to be able to afford to live of it.
I really want to do a job that is fulfilling, and I know that teaching would be, but I am no longer sure that this job has come at the right time. I am really enjoying my job at the uni now, because I am now working with a team of people and I am based in the centre of town, which I love. There are opportunities here, and OK so its admin, but after a year of trying to get some security, I have almost found it in this job, I don’t want to risk it all.
If I thought this was just fear, I would tell myself to take the job anyway, but it doesnt feel like fear, it feels like it just isnt right just now. I am normally good at making big decisions, but on this occassion i am not. I need to find out a few more facts, like the salary of the LA post and also what opportunities they are at the uni.
I just feel frustrated and also run down because of it. I am stuck between two paths and the uncertainty is just subconsciously weighing me down. I don’t feel stressed, because I am a generally upbeat, and don’t let things get to me. However I do feel pressured and it is affecting me.
I just want to figure out what is the best thing to do, make the decision and go for it, I just dont want to make the wrong decision.
I have come to realise that there are parts of my identity that are true and parts that are a lie. There are ways in which I operate that are not actually part of who I really am. I am rediscovering my true identity, who I am and who I am in God. I have been on this discovery for about a year now, and just when I think ‘huh I am nearly there’ that is when I realise just how much further I have to go.
When an area is revealed to me, I deal with it through thinking, blogging, mainly talking being the extrovert that I am, praying and time. Just when one area is revealed, then another is revealed, and another and another. I end up with loads of areas which are all somehow connected. Some people have told me I need to chill a bit more. I do chill, honest! I watch Star Trek and play guitar. I am just an intense person, I am not someone who floats through life, I think about everything and generally struggle with it to (which is one of the areas I need to deal with, does everything need to be a fight).
All these areas that are being revealed to me are all embedded in one main area, which is ‘who I am’ and ‘who I am in God’. I believe that through re-discovering who I am I have to deal with issues from the past, forgive myself, seek forgiveness from God and separate the true parts and the lies (this surrounds all issues, its really hard to figure out the truth from the lies). Through doing this, I am learning so much more about myself, which in turn is leading to me discovering more about God. About who he is and who he wants me to be.
Filed under: flittering words, thoughts and memories | Tags: Church, Community, Love and Forgiveness
In response to The Razzler’s article ‘wondering’ I would like to answer some of the questions.
The main questions I would like to answer are:
When is it appropriate to leave a Church?
Is it ever appropriate to leave a Church?
To quote:
‘Or should we stay and fight because we are a community of believers and the bride of Christ’
For this reason I think once you have made a commitment to a Church through membership, then you should make all attempts possible to work through the problems you encounter. No Church is perfect because no Christian is perfect therefore if we left a Church each time we felt unsatisfied or frustrated, then we would constantly be leaving. This would not be good, because we are called to do God’s work and we are called to love another and support one another in our faith. Which we cannot do if we never establish deep roots and grow together in Christ as a community. Also, the Church is called to be set apart and visible to the world, to set an example and reveal God, what message would we give if we just gave up on people when things got tough.
I do think however that there may be times when it’s ok and right to leave a Church. (I have also read passages in the bible recently on this, which I will find again and add to this blog once I have found them).
1. Headship
If the headship of the Church (minister or leaders) is not following the Gospel, and all attempts have been made to resolve this matter, then I think it is appropriate to leave. This is because we cannot be led by misguided leaders. When people are being chosen for leadership there are certain elements that are used in the selection procedures, I believe that these elements can also be used to ascertain if the teachings are in accordance with the word of God throughout the length of service of the leaders (there are passages in the bible on this, I will find them).
2. Church death
If the Church is dying and all attempts have been made to make the Church grow, then I think it is OK leave, because the Church is called to grow and support one another in faith, if this is not happening and the Church is displaying the classical signs of death, then how long can people really be expected to stay in the Church if it is not functioning as it should. (Again there are passages on this, I will find them)
3. Spiritual hardship
If you are unable to encounter God in the Church, or you can’t feel God’s Spirit present or you are not growing in your faith, I think it is acceptable to leave. I have experienced this personally. I was going to a Church, which had some good points but more bad points, me and a friend continued to go and got more involved in an attempt to work through the problems. However one day after much deliberation we decided to leave and someone asked me ‘when did you know it was the right time to leave’ and I said ‘when we felt more depressed when we came out of Church then we did before we went in’. This is funny, but humour aside we did not agree with what was being taught and our faith was not being nourished.
4. Last resort
If you have encountered a series of problems and tried everything to resolve them but failed then I think it is important to move on, because it will hinder your own growth and others in the Church. I am not sure that this is the way God would have intended us to act. But I think that if things are just impossible and destructive, then it is right to leave.
The thing is I think that every problem can theoretically be resolved, because if we are following the basic values of Christianity, love and forgiveness then surely every problem can be resolved. Unfortunately the world is not perfect and neither is the Church so this does not always happen. Sometimes by staying in the Church, through shear determination the problems can be resolved, but I think that ‘staying no matter what’ can be more harmful. I still have some thinking and debating to do on this…..
I just love sci-fi, a world where I can totally escape. I escape so much into this world that I forget to do things like eat…
I watched Doctor Who on bbci player a couple of days ago, oh wow it was so amazing…for anyone who hasn’t seen it, stop reading now! I can’t believe The Doctor is regenerating, i think David Tennant is just great and I don’t want him to go. And just after The Doctor and Rose had been reunited as well, after all that time they finally find each other just to be ripped apart. I was sitting at the edge of my seat, feet tapping, hands up by my face and a look of complete shock on my face. And then in great big words across the screen TO BE CONTINUED… ‘What’ I said, how can they do that. I had totally escaped into the world of Doctor Who, just for it to be ripped away and for me to be flung back into reality. Oh I hate reality sometimes! I become so engrossed when I am imagining, creating, thinking I enjoy it so much, I hate it when it stops!
I was thinking about daydreaming yesterday, talked to my sister Randon Musings about it, I wondered if as a Christian it is not good to daydream, or about certain things. I think it is OK, as long as you don’t loose touch of reality and what is really important. I just love escaping into my head, thinking, drifting, imagining. If I don’t get enough of it, I have to pull myself away from reality. Although I am an extrovert, I do most of my imagining when I am alone, either watching Sci-fi, reading blogs or just daydreaming.
Sometimes I have to escape my thinking, because I sometimes (well lets be honest, all the time) think to much, so I find playing guitar helps me to stop thinking, because I am concentrating on what I am doing. Mind you I haven’t been playing much guitar, because I lent DS9 of my friend, I have got episodes 1-5 just now, getting 6 &7 next. Oh I think DS9 i just great, my favourite Star-Treck I think! Sorry where was I, oh yes escaping, I used to find I could escape like this when i was learning to drive. It was the only thing at the time that I could do, that could truely allow me to switch off. This is a much needing thing, when you mind never lets you rest. Oh I wish I could continue my lessons, I loved driving, hopefully soon I can take it up again.
I can’t wait to get home tonight to watch more DS9
